Hit 100 consecutive days of asking one question a day - here is what shifted for me at the coffee shop

I started a simple thing back in March where I ask one random question to a stranger every day. It felt forced at first but yesterday I hit day 100. The shift happened three weeks ago at a coffee shop on Main Street when I asked a barista what she actually thinks about when she's pulling shots. She gave me a 10 minute answer about the rhythm of the machine and now I listen way more than I talk. It changed how I think about small talk because people open up when you ask something real. Has anyone else noticed that asking better questions makes your whole day feel different?

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johnson.lee3d ago

Jumped right in on that too myself, @taylor929 is spot-on because I spent months just asking weather questions before I figured out real ones matter. Bought a stranger at the bus stop a coffee last week just to ask what they'd change if they ran the city for a day, and we ended up talking for 45 minutes about potholes and traffic lights. You're right that listening more than talking is the real trick, makes everything feel less like a chore and more like a story.

taylor9293d ago

Waited til day 100 to realize you shoulda just been asking better questions from day 1