The librarian in Tulsa handed me a sticky note that fixed our whole club
Last week I was grousing at the front desk about how our group could not get through a single chapter without somebody derailing it, and she slid me a note that just read 'ask what page they stopped believing the narrator,' which is the one question that finally got us past the fight over chapter four.
Reads a little off to me, because the note isn't really about finding the page where someone quit on the narrator. It's the question itself that does the work, since it asks people to point at the exact moment the trust broke instead of arguing about the whole book. That kind of reframe gets everyone talking about the same small thing, which is way easier to untangle than a big fight over a whole chapter. Your librarian basically handed you a trick for turning a group argument into a shared puzzle, and that's why it worked when nothing else did.